phenomenapsyCHIC: Romance dance with a psychic twist

Can you believe it? The popular online dating site Match.com is celebrating its 18^th year since being launched today. Match.com and other sites similar to it, such as eHarmony, OKCupid, Our Time, PlentyofFish, or Zoosk are widely popular. Why? Well, because almost every woman out there is essentially looking for another human being to connect with on some emotional or heart level.

Just ask Louise Helene; she’s encountered just about every form of that ‘seeking’ in her more than 30 years experience as a psychic advisor. While expertly weaving actual client stories, following a common sense wisdom pattern and accessorizing with techniques on teaching how to tap in to your own intuition she has managed to fashion a book to help others get ‘dressed’ for that all important occasion: the romance dance. Get ready to do a spicy Salsa! Her new book, ‘I Saw Your Future and He’s Not It: A Psychic’s Guide to True Love’ will show you how. Co-authored with Kim Osborn Sullivan, PhD. it is currently available through Llewellyn Worldwide, Amazon, Barnes and Noble and IndieBound.

Louise Helene was gracious enough to answer some of my questions recently:

Can you name one circumstance that prompted you the most to write this book? If so, what was it?

LH: I don’t feel there was one circumstance, but rather my desire to help women find happiness in their love life.

Were you inspired at all by the wildly popular 2004 book and 2009 movie ‘He’s just not that into you?’

LH: No, I was inspired by all my clients throughout the years that need peace, harmony, and clarity when navigating their love life.

Many of the female clients written about in your book seem to be focused on males they meet that are either handsome or physically attractive in some way. Do you feel that since that with such a focus, other characteristics are being overlooked in seeking a potential mate?

LH: Yes, sometimes my clients will ignore bad behavior, and poor character in a man they find handsome. Interestingly, however, love IS blind as many of my clients only found the man in their life “handsome” after they were in love with him. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Within the last 20 years or so, online dating has become immensely popular. Do you feel this has enhanced or hindered achieving genuine long-lasting happiness in love?

LH: I feel online dating actually helps people find more potential partners and soul mates, so it’s a great thing. However, because of the obvious dangers, it is more important than ever to develop, and listen to our intuition to screen out the good guys from the bad guys.

What is your assessment of the following article written in 2011? http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704409004576146321725889448.html

LH: This article is true in many aspects, but (to cut to the chase) if women expected, and required more of men, they (men) wouldn’t be so unreliable and unstable. Unfortunately, women have a tendency to be very forgiving of the men they love. A good rule of thumb is: A woman needs to set the rules down early in a relationship, and require good behavior from her man. Many times how your relationship begins is how it ends.

Regarding using psychic ability in finding love, do you feel that if we listen to our initial ‘gut’ reaction when encountering someone for the first time, that it reflects the most accuracy?

LH: Absolutely, our initial “gut” reaction when meeting someone is the most accurate, but most people don’t listen to their inner voice. My book helps train women to recognize and pay attention to what they are feeling.

In our current American society, do you feel there is an ever-increasing pervasive attitude of ‘disposability’ in relationships that could be summarized something like this: “If you don’t meet my needs, I have no qualms with throwing you away and finding someone else.”

LH: I have clients that work very hard to hold their relationships together, sometimes too hard. In general, I feel that people (especially women) do not end a relationship easily, and only after much soul searching and heartache.

What percentage of your clients do you feel seek your advice about love relationships as confirmation to their own assessment of their situations and why?

LH: About 50%, but they don’t have confidence in their evaluation of their situation, and need a second opinion. Also, many times their heart tells them one thing and their head another.

What is your opinion on how social media, texting and the like have changed dating as compared to the past?

LH: Men don’t call women anymore. I hear many women complaining that they barely talk to the men they meet because HE prefers to text. Women like to text, but they also want to hear the sound of the man’s voice, and have the intimacy of a conversation. This is a bigger problem than most people realize, as it breaks down personal contact and connection. It also doesn’t help that many men sit and text constantly while on a date.

With your track record of over 30 years of giving psychic readings, are your clients still looking for that special one: their soul mate?

LH: Over 80% of my clients eventually have found their soul mates, some of them are still looking, and a few realized they were happiest when flying solo.

Please give one outstanding example of how psychic knowledge really saved the day where love was concerned with one of your clients.

LH: One of my clients came within two days of marrying a serial cheater. With some psychic help, and a little investigating she found out her future husband had two other girlfriends. The wedding was called off, and she married a wonderful man two years later.

If you could only give one piece of advice regarding looking for love, what would it be?

LH: Don’t love someone out of loneliness, take your time, and listen to your intuition. Do these things and you will recognize true love when it comes to you.

Available in paperback and Kindle edition, Louise Helene’s book simply gives women the empowerment of some very down-to-earth tips on how to emerge as the ‘belle of the ball’ in the love department: helping any woman to glide gracefully across the romance dance floor confident in her own ability to love and be loved.